This is why I started writing the blog, when I started
researching donating a kidney I had a really hard time finding firsthand
accounts of what it was like, how people have felt afterward and what their
experience was like. So I am going to do
my best to give you my account day by day.
I want to make a couple blanket statements before I start
this process because I don’t think these thoughts and stories are always going
to be pretty, but they are going to be honest.
- I have never doubted before or since the surgery that Kate and I have made the correct decision to donate to Ashley
- I am incredibly excited that she is doing so well with the new Kidney.
- I am taking pain medication (just in case I need an excuse for something I write)
- I reserve the right to add more to this list but can’t think of anything else right now.
So let’s start with the surgery day.
What is it like to have your kidney removed?
The honest answer is I really have no idea; you would have
to ask the doctors. This really is one
of the harder things to deal with mentally.
My surgery was scheduled for 7:30 which meant I had to be there at 6 and
I hadn’t eaten the entire day before because of the bowel prep. I hadn’t had any trouble sleeping until that
night, just the anticipation of the surgery has most of your nerves on end, so
I probably only got 3 or 4 hours of sleep but it felt like a lot less. To say the least I wasn’t in my best form that
morning.
We showed up at the hospital met family and went up to the
procedure waiting room. There was a
giant guy at the desk, but he had a really calming personality, seemed like he
was perfect for the job (I will let you figure out why). They took Kate and I back into the procedure
suites (I like that they call them suites, makes it seem fancy, really it was just
three walls with a curtain on one side).
There were an endless line of doctors and nurses that came in, that asked
you all the same questions, and gave us the lovely gown.
Two things strike me about the gown, is there really not a
better option for people in the hospital?
We have improved on so much but the gown they came up with 100 years ago
is the best we can do. Secondly how did my super crafty wife not make me a
personalized monogrammed gown, it just seems like something that would be right
up her ally, not that I am complaining.
After the gown they put in the IV line and well you are
pretty much ready to go. There was one
doctor who I’m not sure what his background was but he had a very raspy voice
and he was one of the last one’s to come in.
He must have been my best man because his comment was you know you don’t
have to do this you can still back out (we have a car waiting in the back and
we can get you out of here). I’m not
sure if I am sharing too much guy information here, but that is the job of the
best man, not the only job, but the day of the wedding he needs to let the
groom know that there is a way out.
Both.women and men are shaking their heads right now, women because they can't believe this happens, and men because they can't believe I told women that it happens, well it does and I'm sorry.
So they wheel you away from your wife as she is crying and
you go down some weird halls that they don’t let anyone see and a bunch of half
faces put you to sleep. I’ve heard
people tell stories of counting backwards or them saying something, but both
times I have been knocked out a half face came at me and said this is an oxygen
mask and I think I just passed out because of fear I have no idea but that is
the last thing I remember.
Then you wake up, you really have no idea what
happened. Your family is next to you and
they have completely understanding of everything that is going on, and you are
just thinking do I know where I am and do I have pants on (which you don’t) and
to be honest you aren’t thinking that because I’m not sure you realize you
still have legs. I remember talking to several people, Kate, Mom, Keith, some
people rolling me around and then getting taken to my room, which until I went
back to visit Ashley after we checked out I had no idea where it was in the
hospital.
They ask you to roll from the rolling cart to your bed which
is just mean and very painful but somehow I did it, and then you are in your
room.
It doesn’t feel like anything has been removed from you, it’s
not like they took a finger or an arm or a leg.
They took something you really didn’t know you had from a place that you
really can’t feel or see. You know you
have a giant incision in your belly (4 inches) and two holes below your belly
button. It hurts, feels weird and is
very uncomfortable, you have a button you can push every 10 minutes and I
assumed it worked because the pain was controllable but I never felt a huge
difference when I pushed it.
The actual experience is to be honest the best word to
describe it is disappointing. I’m not
sure if that makes sense, but they explained this very well and a lot in the process
of becoming a donor. You are healthy
going into surgery, and in the reality of the situation they are making your
body worse, they are taking something away from you, so you don’t feel better
afterwards. Besides pain maintenance
there is really nothing for them to check with you to see if it took or if the
surgery was successful. If you are alive
and breathing your surgery was a success.
That seems like enough information for today, I think Kate is
going to post the kidney picture today and I will let her give the more fun
updates, but I wanted to get started with the experience before it got to
removed from my mind.
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